Abuse is sometimes difficult to detect because it is manipulative and can often be very subtle. Often abusive tactics are disguised as acts of love and care. The following are some questions to consider.
- frightened, at times, by your partner’s behavior?
- afraid to disagree with your partner?
- constantly apologizing for your partner’s behavior (especially when they have hurt you or treated you badly)?
- verbally degraded by your partner?
- unable to see your friends or family because of your partner’s jealousy?
- afraid to break up with your partner because they have threatened
- feel like you must justify everything you do to avoid your partner’s anger?
- avoid family or social situations because you are afraid of how your partner will act?
- been hit, kicked, shoved, thrown down, choked, or grabbed?
- had things thrown at you?
- forced to have sex or engage in any sexual acts against your will?
If you have answered "yes" to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. Perhaps you are now out of a violent relationship, but are still dealing with the pain. In either situation, there are places you can go for help and support. Call SAPAC's main office at (734) 764 7771to schedule an appointment, SAPAC's 24-hour crisis line at (734) 936 3333, or SAFE House's 24-hour Crisis line at (734) 995 5444. SAPAC provides services to all survivors of intimate partner violence or sexual assault regardless of gender or sexual orientation.